Would you still date someone after they told you they had genital herpes?

Question 1
Would you still date someone after they told you they had genital herpes?...  Okay, so I have been dating a guy for a month now. Well, to make a long story short. We live in two different cities and a couple of days before I went to see him, my ex told me he had it. I already had a regular checkup scheduled that same week, so I went and got tested but the results were going to take a week to get back. I hadn’t been with my ex in over a year and I was not aware that the virus can lay dormant so I was confident I was okay, but since I hadn’t had one in a while, I decided to get it anyway. Well we ended up having sex including oral sex unfortunately I found out I had it once I returned home and got a call from the doc. I immediately told him and he is extremely upset with me saying I should have told him there was a possibility. He hasn’t talked to me in a couple of days and I just don’t know what to do. I know we should have waited before having sex in general, but we hit it off perfectly. I did not think I was putting him at risk. I shouldn’t have trusted my own judgement. I am not only trying to deal with the fact that I have it, but I am praying he doesn’t. When I ask him does he want me to lose contact with him he just says he doesn’t know. What should I do?

Answers
1)   No I wouldn't date them. - Sari

2)   you need to leave it alone, he has to decide this issue. in essence you lied, to yourself and to him, and he has to come to terms with this, and with the possibility that he may now be infected. How important a relationship with you is to him is what he has to decide, so just leave him alone for now. Give it like two weeks, and if you haven't heard from him you can safely assume he wants nothing more to do with you, and you then need to get on with your life. - essentiallysolo

3)   You should have waited, you knew there was a chance. There is medicine that stops the spread of herpes but does not cure it. I know plenty of people that have dated herpes sufferers but their partners were on medicine to prevent the transition. He may not want to talk to you because it was a very irresponsible and selfish thing to do and you both have only been dating for a month. It's not the herpes that has him upset, it's the fact that he can't trust you to do the right thing. - Eve

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5)   That is an extremely touchy situation that you are in.
On his side, he thinks that you probably knew and didnt say anything,
that is something that is life changing, and honestly i wouldnt want to change my whole life
like that over someone I had only been with for a month.
Depending on the situation, how much i care for the person, etc, is how i would go about either still being with the person or not.
Im so sorry that you contracted it, it will be a long and hard road for you,
but if he doesnt stay with you, he wasnt the one.
someone will come along one day and love you for all your impurities. - Kaysee


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Question 2
Does my fiance have liver problems?...  For a several months now (almost 8 or 9) my fiance has constantly been complaining that he feels ill and tired. I have been brushing it off as nothing until now, as today I noticed his skin looking slightly yellow.
I am now quite concerned because I know that this can be a symptom of liver damage. Especially as he does have some bad habit when it comes to alcohol in that he doesn't drink often but when he does it is often a large bottle of whiskey. (And yes, I have tried to talk to him about how bad this is for him!)
Could this be what it is? And if so what should we do from here?
Thank You

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1)   yup...get him to a doctor...or...(better) run away QUICKLY... - jake696

2)   If you feel his right hand side, above his hip and below his ribcage and back in towards his navel, press firmly but not too hard, try to see if you can feel any nodules or lumps or changes in the hardness of his liver. That's the first indication that doctors would look for. He certainly needs to go to a doctor for a liver function test, in which they take blood and look for liver enzymes in systemic blood. Sounds to me that your hunch could be right. Tell him to go ASAP. Death from liver failure is long and painful and very traumatic for people that would have to visit him in hospital during his last few weeks. Hope he's OK. - Derek Bradley

3)   salad helps tone the liver, that will help some - Dale

4)   Yes, and if he is starting to Jaundice it is probably really getting severe.He needs some liver tests,ast,alt,bilirubin,etc. He should not drink any alcohol.The only over the counter things that I know of that can help,but I wouldn't even recommend until he sees a Dr. are Milk Thistle,available all over and a product called Liv 52.You can do research on this one on the computer and see the wonderful reviews from around the world on this.But he sounds like a prime candidate for alcoholic hepatitis,or possibly,b,or c.Or maybe,(not likely a) Good luck to you both. - Just passin thru


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Question 3
Help, recovering from anorexia. i cant look at myself in the mirror?! GIRLS ONLY?...  im 14 years old and am recovering from anorexia that started when i was 12. Since my period stopped as a result of weight loss, my nutritionist wants me to gain weight until i get my period again. i did gain a lot of weight and am now 94 pounds at 5 feet tall, but i need to gain more weight. I cant look at myself in the mirror without crying, am sad all the time, lonely, and i hate leaving my house (even to go to school) because i feel ugly and fat, i just wanna be in bed all day,i don't have friends, and im extremely stressed out from school. I already go to a psychologist but it doesn't seem to be helping. I don't know what to do?!

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1)   you dont need to be sad your accually still under weight.. typically for an adult of 5 feet you sould be 95 - 127 pounds but since your only 14 years old your heart needs alittle more,

think positive and tell yourself that your beautiful and when people are extemely skinny it does NOT look good

plus guys like a healthy body weight they dont wanna feel your bonniness lol from your info you are deffinately NOT fat quit telling yourself that... dress up nice go for a walk and enjoy life your beautiful :) - Stephie

2)   no matter what size you are, you are alive. that is more than other people who are/were annorexic can say. - je t'aime<3

3)   Neilla,You know what it is an image thing only you look in the mirror and all you see is fat but you have to know that's just your eye's playing tricks on you,5' tall and 94 lbs is probably the right weight, I know anorexia must be a horrible disease and i feel for you, I wish I could help but until you accept that it's not what you see in the mirror nobody can help but you. Good Luck Rita V - Rita V


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Question 4
Could I have a Cold Sore?...  I've been really scared of cold sores and my friend has one and my mom has one.

About a day ago, my friend and i drank from the same bottle but she didnt have an outbreak, can a cold sore show up a day later?

And about two days ago, i put on some of my moms chapstick, but i noticed that it was hers and wiped the stuff off on my arm. I told her about it later and she said probablly not because she uses it all the time. Could i get a cold sore from that? Would it show up 2 or 3 days later?

And, i woke up this morning. Last night, something was growing. It looked barely pinker than the rest of my lip and like the skin was streching in one spot, (it looked tight). This morning, it doesn't look tight, but it looks like a small scab went over. it's much darker, and has a tint of brown. it's not sticking out though. my mom says it isn't one and it looks like i just cut it, but its in the shape of a circle.

So,
1st. do i have one?
2nd. How can i keep them away?
3rd. Should i go to my doctor?
4th. If it's not a cold sore, what is it?
5th. Is there a medicine you recommend?
6th. Is there a cover up that doesn't irritate it?
And any other advice that ccould help...sorry im really scared of the whole thing.
Also: (this might help)
1. It never hurt or tingled.
2. It's half the size of a regular cold sore, (right now)
3. There is no bump or puffiness
4. My mom said that it would be really puffy, (but its been noticed for only a day)
5. I used black tea bags, could what i have be an effect to that?
6. I was told that i could have damaged my lip by chewing on paper or cutting it somehow...

Answers
1)   Sure, here ya go. - Connor

2)   no u have herpees - CoolCat7

3)   Yes that defo sounds like a coldsore to me. I get them too. Once you have a coldsore youve got them for life it stays in your blood. there isnt any real way of preventing them u can buy creams but they wont stop them they will jst help get rid of them. I find tht perfume or aftershave being put on a coldsore helps or toothpaste it dries them out. - Kelly Web


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Question 5
why does diabetes increase pins and needles?...  

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1)   If you are talking about the feelings in your hands and feet this is what my doc told me. Diabetes directly affects the nerve endings in your body and most often in the extremities. Especially if your sugars are high. Try to keep the best control you can, but ask your doc if things do not improve. There are some not so widely talked about side effects of diabetes...and this is one of them. Good luck... - Julie

2)   It's called neuropathy, and its a side affect of having diabetes for a while [my case, 30 years!] It has to do with your nerves.
I get it so bad at times, I have been put on narcotic pain relievers, because at times, it feels like an ice pick is being driven through my feet :( - Witchy One...


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